As I’m sure most moms can agree, there is nothing better than motherhood. The same goes for dads and how they feel about fatherhood. Our relationships with our children deserve to be celebrated every spring with Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. These holidays are so special for a parent and their children; however, when parents are separated or divorced, these celebrations may look a little different. I have a unique personal perspective as a mother who has been divorced as well as a professional outlook as a Collaborative Family Law attorney and co-parenting coach. Here are my top three tips for celebrating Mother’s Day and Father’s Day during and after divorce.
Be Thoughtful in Planning
As you and your parenting partner arrange weekends, align schedules with Mother’s Day and Father’s Day so your children spend it accordingly. As a mother, I always appreciated that it was a given that my children would spend Mother’s Day weekend with me. This was also the case for Father’s Day as they would always spend the weekend with their dad.
Acknowledge Other Family Members
While your child may just have one mom or one dad, there may be others who play an important role in their lives too. This might include grandparents (on one or both sides), stepparents, or godparents. Even if they’re not on your side of the family, acknowledging these individuals and helping your child wish them a happy Mother’s Day or Father’s Day can be really meaningful for not only this special person but also for your child.
Help Your Children with Gifting
If your children are young and unable to put together a gift for their other parent ahead of Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, lend them a hand. This could be helping them make a homemade card or craft, or maybe footing the bill for a gift they’d like to purchase. If your children are a bit older but not yet driving, perhaps you can take them shopping to pick something out in their budget.
These actions will not only show your children that you respect their other parent and family members, but will also demonstrate kindness and thoughtfulness – behaviors that are best learned by example.
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